Research, data, advice and tips on the business of same-sex weddings from Bernadette Coveney Smith, the nation's leading gay wedding expert. In 2004, Bernadette opened 14 Stories, the first company in the U.S. to specialize in planning legal same-sex weddings.
Bernadette Coveney Smith - Wednesday, February 03, 2010
A few things to note for photographers who are shooting gay weddings:
It's very common for gay couples to get prepared for their gay wedding together. They often see each other before the ceremony so if there's hair and makeup to be done, it's usually done together. There are some great opportunities for intimate getting ready photos and I always encourage my clients to book the photographer long enough to get that coverage.
This means that you might not capture that wonderful "first look" photo.
Many gay couples have their formal photos taken before the wedding, rather than during cocktail hour. A few reasons why but it comes down to wanting to enjoy cocktail hour. Also, if the ceremony and reception are in the same location, the rental period is often still 5 hours (as opposed to 5 hours just for the reception) so I like to keep my couples present and engaged during that entire time, not have them whisked away for up to an hour for photos.
Gay couples often process down two aisles during the gay wedding ceremony, or walk in from two different directions. This is notable because a site visit is a good idea in order to determine where to stand so you can pivot to capture both partners' processional. If you can't identify a good position, you may consider speaking with your client about hiring a second shooter.
Finally, gay wedding receptions are an exercise in omission rather than addition. You'll notice very few formal dances, no bouquet or garter toss, and sometimes not even a cake cutting.
Have you noticed these trends when shooting gay weddings?
Not too many options... Most of my grooms buy their garments and if so, I generally send them to Brooks Brothers (a former client works at one) though some do rent their suits. One thing is clear: it's easier for a groom to buy a tux without coming out of the closet but you should still be prepared to help.
Here are some tips for helping your gay grooms:
Don't assume that they will wear one of the options stated above. You may encounter the occasional groom who will wear drag. Instead ask, "What are you wearing to your wedding?"
Identify gay-friendly or gay-owned tailors in your area.
Identify gay-friendly or gay-owned tux rental shops in your area.
Have you seen gay grooms wear something out of the ordinary at their gay wedding?
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